A few years back, Sarah said she was tried of giving things to our relatives that they really didn't need. All of the children were grown and our "gifts" were reduced to the mail order foods of questionable quality. She said, let's donate the money we spend instead!
Sarah identified Heifer International and we have been gifting animals to people in real need. It felt great! Not only that but we suggested to our relatives not to buy us anything and to give to their favorite charities instead.
This year I got a card from my brother and he donated to a local family who's father had just lost his job. It touched my heart and I knew that what we were doing was right!
You are free to practice the holidays in any way you believe but if you find yourself in a similar circumstance, think about what we did and consider doing the same.